In the victim role, a person chooses to act powerless, often using language that implies they are being acted upon. The victim doesn't take responsibility for their own actions because "I can't help it."

The victim must learn that NOT to choose IS to make a choice. An unsafe one. The pathway to healthy emotions begins with taking control of their life by setting boundaries against unwelcome behavior-and sticking to those borders.

Feelings of powerlessness can be the result of a lack of trust. For a child, it may be dealing with an untrustworthy adult. After a time, the child stops trusting his own judgment because the role of victim becomes comfortable and familiar. Stepping out of it requires re-establishing confidence in a person's own God-given ability to make wise decisions and take control of his or her own life.

Stephen Goforth