According to Albert Ellis, the most common irrational ideas behind anger are the following:
1. I must do well and win the approval of others or else I will rate as a rotten person.
2. Others must treat me considerately and kindly and in precisely the way I want them to treat me.
3. The world and the people in it must arrange conditions under which I live, so that I get everything I want when I want it.
As their anger slows down, people should challenge irrational thoughts with statements such as:
What evidence exists for this? Why can't I stand this noise or this unfairness?
Gary Collins, Counseling and Anger