How talkers and non-talkers can get along
/There are two kinds of people in the world: Talkers and non-talkers. While it might seem like common sense to match the two types together in marriage, that’s not necessarily a recipe for marital bliss. Many non-talkers are also non-listeners. And despite the growing number of ways to communicate, technology is becoming a substitute for engagement rather than a supplement. Ideally, we’d find someone who complements our style of communication. Here are a few tips from the experts:
Recognize the difference between silence and someone who is really listening. Active listening means being engaged with nonverbal cues and reflecting back what the speaker has said.
Be honest with one another and ask for a break when the non-talker runs low on gas. Be respectful and give it to him.
Don’t make the mistake of thinking brief summaries will do the trick. These bursts may not give enough time for an emotional connection.
Instead of numbing an emotionally-depleted spouse, find an attentive audience of friends who can provide what a talker needs.