In the Mix

You don't have to be "deep" or constantly talking about profound issues. You just need to be "in the mix" so that you venture outside of your box. People who don’t peek out and over the lid of their cardboard hovel live in very small worlds. They may follow others into change, but they do not own it. 

One way to clarify who is in the mix and who is not is to ask, "Would I go to this person for advice when some significant life issue confronted me?" And not just when you are looking for encouragement or wisdom, but because this person is a fellow struggler.  

People like this whet your appetite for substantive relationships. They make you want to become more than what you are. These are friends who are open to their own paradigm shifts—not just trying to “straighten you out” to make you more like them. They want to grow as you do. 

Stephen Goforth