after all
/Love, after all, has far more to do with seeing someone clearly and accepting them fully for who they actually are than it does with feeling attracted to or liking them. -William Bridges
Love, after all, has far more to do with seeing someone clearly and accepting them fully for who they actually are than it does with feeling attracted to or liking them. -William Bridges
The media has contributed to the confusion in our culture between repression and suppression. "Poster after poster, film after film, novel after novel, (CS) Lewis notes, “associate the idea of sexual indulgence with the ideas of health, normality, youth, frankness, and good humour.” He claims this association gives a false impression and is a lie. “Like all powerful lies,” Lewis explains, “it is based on a truth.. that sex in itself.. is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’.. the lie consists in the suggestion that any sexual act to which you are tempted at the moment is also healthy and normal.” Lewis adds that human sexuality, like gravity or any other aspect of our universe, cannot in itself be moral or immoral. Sexuality, like the rest of the universe, is given by God and therefore good. How people express their sexuality, on the other hand, can be moral or immoral.
Armand Nicholi, The Question of God
A lone amateur built the Ark. A large group of professionals built the Titanic.
Is third place better than coming in second? Third seems to be a better result if you are in the Olympics. Psychologists at Cornell University say their research shows bronze-medal winners are generally happier than silver medalists. Why? When you come in second place, you focus on what you might have done differently to win. When you come in third you are happy just to get a medal.
The phenomenon of "what if" reasoning (knows as Counterfactual thinking) leads us to imagine how things could have been different rather than on what actually has happened. The bronze winners generally think “what if” I hadn’t won anything and they realize how fortunate they are to be on the podium. But for the silver medalist, “what if” means pondering the little things that might have turned silver into gold.
It seems counterfactual thinking plays out, not just in games, but in everyday life. If a student misses making a grade of "A" by one point, having scored a "B" is no longer so satisfying.
"Would I be happier today if only I had married someone else?" “What if I had attended a different school or majored in another field?” “Suppose I had selected a different profession?”
Miss a flight by five minutes and you are frustrated. But if there’s no way you could make the flight you don't waste time on it. It's like the football team that loses in the final seconds of a game. If the team had gotten blown out, the players could more easily put it behind them and move on. But when victory was so very close, they can always think of little things they might have done differently to affect the outcome.
Do you puzzle over what you might have done until you what-if yourself into dissatisfaction? Do you get stuck thinking about what almost happened? Do you feel like you are the silver medalist in life?
It's worth noting that first place has its pitfalls as well. Research indicates that the first runner in a long-distance race puts in three times more effort to maintain that position than the runner-up. The researchers recommend when you are in the lead you should focus on the struggle with oneself rather than the pace of the other runners.
Stephen Goforth
What is the difference between artificial neural networks and biological brains
Some things Uber learned from running machine learning at scale
Understanding the “average treatment effect” number
MIT removes huge dataset that teaches AI systems to use racist, misogynistic slurs
The Detroit Police Department's facial recognition software is wrong 96% of the time
Artificial neural networks are more similar to the brain than we thought
Unpacking Spark 3.0—adaptive query execution, GPU help, and more
*Beta is a period of testing and evaluation under normal, everyday conditions to evaluate conformance to system requirements, not to break or destroy the product
***THE VIRUS
More than 1,000 TSA employees have tested positive for coronavirus
If the coronavirus is really airborne, we might be fighting it the wrong way
The Psychology Behind Why Some People Refuse To Wear Face Masks
Coronavirus: New UK study shows antibodies fade after 3 weeks
***HIGHER ED & THE VIRUS
The pandemic may have changed the American college experience forever (opinion)
University of Texas staff member dies from COVID-19 complications, campus’ first fatality
Coronavirus Is Blowing Up America’s Higher Education System
More colleges, states mandate masks on campus
***THE FALL SEMESTER
Unreleased CDC Document on Campus Reopening
Coronavirus is spreading in fraternity houses, raising concerns for campuses opening this fall
Rice University is building nine big new classrooms all of them outdoors ($)
Coronavirus is spreading in fraternity houses, raising concerns for campuses opening this fall
Mapping U.S. colleges' fall 2020 plans
Universities roll back reopening plans amid new COVID-19 outbreaks
A rush back to campus is sowing distrust at universities (opinion)
UC Berkeley reopening in doubt after 47 coronavirus cases tied to fraternity parties
***K-12
Los Angeles, San Diego Schools Won’t Reopen Due to Rising Coronavirus Cases
America is not prepared for schools opening this fall. This will be bad (opinion)
Texas teachers writing their wills as state promises to open schools in fall
To reopen schools safely, close streets and create outdoor classrooms
***HIGHER ED
Stanford will drop 11 varsity sports, including wrestling, men's volleyball and women's field hockey
Insurance Costs on the Rise for Colleges
***HIGHER ED & RACIAL ISSUES
Mississippi students voted to move a Civil War statue. Now they fear a Confederate shrine
Washington and Lee faculty vote to change the university's name
15 Classroom Resources for Discussing Racism, Policing, and Protest
The University Of Texas Is Renaming Its Football Field
***HIGHER ED & POLITICS
Trump threatens to pull tax exemption for schools, colleges
***HIGHER ED IN COURT
SCOTUS will consider free speech damages in case of evangelizing college student
***TEACHING ONLINE
The Greatest Teaching Techniques Don't Compute Over Zoom
College Courses Online Are Disappointing. Here’s How to Fix Them
Yes, Your Zoom Teaching Can Be First-Rate
Number of academic dishonesty incidents during spring term remains within normal range at Dartmouth
***ACADEMIC LIFE
Study: faculty fit in hiring is vague and potentially detrimental to diversity efforts
University professors fear returning to campus as coronavirus cases surge nationwide
Many College Professors Don’t Want To Teach In Person. Will They Have A Choice?
'Scared for my life,' but needing a salary: Teachers weigh risks as COVID-19 looms
***CHRISTIAN SCHOOLS
Racial slur, ‘The Idiot’s Guide to Kama Sutra’ led to chaplain’s firing, says Wheaton College
Loyola University Chicago Rolls Back Plans For In-Person Classes This Fall
'It's been an embarrassment to Liberty'; Falwell says he backs renaming Lynchburg
Evangel to require masks on campus
***RESEARCH
‘Each scientist must stand up, at all costs, for the truth’ ($)
The Pandemic Is Pushing Scientists To Rethink How They Read Research Papers
How to Read Covid-19 Research (and Actually Understand It)
***STUDENT LIFE
College students fume over having to pay full tuition for dubious online learning
African grey parrot outperforms children and college students
An Algorithm Set Students’ Grades—and Altered Their Futures
6 Ways To Slow The Spread Of COVID-19 When You Get Back To Campus
Here are some questions that students, parents, and faculty might ask about a school's plan for handling the virus during the fall semester.
1-Will students be expected to quarantine when they first arrive?
2-Will be outdoor social distancing activities?
3-Will there be a list of dues and don’ts along with an indication of what’s the most important?
4-Will students with underlying conditions get special help?
5-Should students treat their professors differently than students since they are older?
6-Will classrooms be cleaned after every class meeting?
7-What messaging will be used to motivate students to be safe?
8-How will students be encouraged to wear masks at social events?
9-Will students coming from lax-mask wearing states be given extra help/encouragement to follow the mask-wearing rules?
10-What will be done to help to correct mistaken beliefs about safety measures on the part of students and staff?
11-What happens if someone refuses to wear a mask?
12-How will testing for the virus be handled?
13-How often will I be tested?
14-Where will testing take place?
15-What happens if someone refuses to be tested?
16-Is there an HR form to be filled out each week by employees about symptoms? Will HR notify the supervisor and work contacts if someone is a potential risk?
17-What if someone is turned away for testing because they don’t exhibit symptoms but may have been exposed?
18-Will there be an app used to track symptoms?
19-If there is a symptom tracking app used, will there be rewards for using it?
20-Can the tracking be personalized to their pre-existing conditions?
21-How will shame over contracting symptoms or contracting the disease itself be combated?
22-If someone is self-isolating on campus because of exposure to the virus, how will others be informed (so they don’t intrude)? How will meals be arranged?
23-How will the duties of staff/faculty be handled if the person is self-isolating?
24-Will it be made clear to students what will trigger automatic quarantine?
25-How will contract tracing be handled? (Even if county health authorities say they will conduct tracing, there are reports of this not happening in parts of the country.)
26-Will a “case manager” be assigned to each COVID-19 case (and who assigns them and is there a system in place to keep up with their findings)?
27-If the spread happens rapidly, what will happen if case managers are overwhelmed?
28-Will students who reveal they have been to bars (when they are underage) be punished for reporting these contacts?
29-How many cases will trigger parts of the campus to close or restrict services? How many cases will trigger a shut down of the school?
30-Will students clearly be informed about the threshold for campus shutdown?
31-If I feel unsafe, can I take my classes online?
If you have other questions to suggest, let me know! stephengoforth@gmail.com
We play many roles during our lifetime. The hard part is knowing when to play which role. We are often unaware that the curtain is falling, and another act is about to begin. Don't become one of those sad actors, playing a role that has already ended. You know someone like this: They are no longer relevant, and they are reciting lines that belong in another act, in another time.
There is another danger: Playing our role on stage and then running off the stage and into the audience. We take a seat and heckle ourselves. It is God's play, not our own: allow him to determine the value of your performance. As actors, we do not know when the final curtain will fall. We do not know the outcome of the play or even how storylines resolve themselves. There are twists that only the author understands.
The thought that "we are all actors in a play" is an old idea that reminds us that we do not have enough information to make heads or tails of too much of what’s going on around us. We are forced to ad-lib, to improvise, to guess our way through life.
CS Lewis wrote, “We keep on assuming that we know the play. We do not even know whether we are in Act I or Act V. We do not know who are the major and who the minor characters. The Author knows.” And then there's Garrison Keillor's quip: "God writes a lot of comedy...the trouble is, he's stuck with so many bad actors who don't know how to play funny."
Stephen Goforth
***THE VIRUS
Warning of serious brain disorders in people with mild coronavirus symptoms
New Study Says 'Silent Spreaders' May Be Responsible For Half Of U.S. COVID-19 Cases
***WORKING FROM HOME
Lawsuit: Mom working at home fired because boss was upset about kids interfering with work
***THE VIRUS & RELIGION
A running list of situations where churches have met together and spread the virus
A Christian Summer Camp Shut Down After 82 Kids And Staff Got The Coronavirus
Churches, eager to reopen, have emerged as a major source of coronavirus cases
Evangelical minister from Mike Pence’s Indiana prayer group reveals he's voting for Joe Biden
***RELIGION
Montana man arrested after toppling religious monument
Israel orders US-based Christian TV channel off air
Kneeling in the Church of Social Justice
***RELIGION AND POLITICS
Author Interview: 'Unholy' Examines The Alliance Between White Evangelicals And Trump
A new dilemma for Trump’s team: Preventing super-spreader churches
When progressive evangelicals held the national stage
How an ardent defender of faith—and Donald Trump—came to think of the press as her enemy
The Faith Of The Black Lives Matter Movement
***RELIGION & THE LAW
Recent SCOTUS Decisions On Religion Open Up New Questions
Supreme Court lifts ban on state aid to religious schooling
Religious school teachers aren't covered by employment discrimination laws, Supreme Court rules
Why Supreme Court Liberals Joined Conservatives on Religion
Supreme Court Allows Exemptions For Birth Control Coverage
***RELIGION & RACIAL ISSUES
Evangelical leaders are speaking up about race — but will this new focus last?
How an iconic painting of Jesus as a white man was distributed around the world ($)
***TELEVANGELISTS
Televangelist Morris Cerullo dies at 88
Televangelists take a slice as churches accept billions in US coronavirus aid
***DENOMINATIONS
Church of God denomination facing significant COVID-19 outbreak; leaders won't say how many infected
Jehovah’s Witnesses schedule virtual convention due to coronavirus
Catholic Church Getting Over $1 Billion In Coronavirus Aid
***MEGACHURCHES
A Megachurch Let the Pastor’s Son Work With Kids Despite His “Attraction to Minors”
John Ortberg’s Church Says ‘No Evidence of Misconduct’ As More Details Emerge
John Ortberg’s megachurch announces new investigation
Dallas megachurch that hosted Pence approved for millions in coronavirus aid
A Dallas Megachurch Had A Coronavirus Cluster then It Hosted Mike Pence
***RELIGION & LGBTQ ISSUES
Instagram and Facebook ban all content promoting conversion therapy
Mexico City Lawmakers Vote To Ban ‘Gay Conversion’ Therapy
Humility is the awareness that there’s a lot you don’t know and that a lot of what you think you know is distorted or wrong. -David Brookes
If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more, you are a leader. -John Quincy Adams (born: July 11, 1767)
Let us not cease to do the utmost, that we may incessantly go forward in the way of the Lord; and let us not despair of the smallness of our accomplishments. -John Calvin (Born: July 10, 1509)
Having difficult experiences early in life is less important than whether we’ve found a way to make sense of how those experiences have affected us. -Daniel J. Siegel
How can you determine whether a job candidate is willing to constantly revise their understanding and reconsider problems they thought they'd already solved?" Ask: “Tell me about a goal you didn't manage to achieve. What happened? What did you do as a result?"
Most candidates will take responsibility for failing. (People who don't are people you definitely don't want to hire.) Good candidates don't place the blame on other people or on outside factors. They recognize that few things go perfectly, and a key ingredient of success is having the ability to adjust.
Smart people take responsibility. And they also learn key lessons from the experience, especially about themselves. They see failure as training. That means they can describe, in detail what perspectives, skills, and expertise they gained from that training. And they can admit where they were wrong -- and how they were willing and even eager to change their minds.
Jeff Haden writing in Inc.
***THE VIRUS
Face masks vs. face shields: What should we be wearing?
The race to develop RNA-based vaccine ($)
***HIGHER ED & THE VIRUS
New Report: How The Coronavirus Pandemic Affected College Enrollments In The Spring
A Reckoning In Higher Education: Will There Be Campus Life After Covid-19?
***THE FALL SEMESTER
What Will College Be Like in the Fall?
Colleges Plan to Reopen Campuses, but for Just Some Students at a Time
A Shift to Online Classes this Fall Could Lead to a Retention Crisis
Colleges Gear Up for an Uncertain Fall Semester Online
Ethical challenges loom over decisions to resume in-person college classes
Universities Reverse Campus Reopening Plans Amidst Covid-19 Spike
There is no safe way to reopen colleges this fall ($)
Local Communities Should Sue to Keep University Campuses Closed (opinion)
A COVID-19 outbreak on UW’s Greek Row hints at how hard it may be to open colleges this fall
'How the hell are we going to do this?' The panic over reopening schools
Colleges are racing to create 'a new sense of normalcy.' Will new rules, COVID-19 testing be enough?
***FALL COLLEGE SPORTS
Texas College will forego intercollegiate athletics in the fall due to the COVID-19 pandemic
'Not a stretch': Reality dictates Covid-19 may hit college football programs
Unable to afford coronavirus testing, some colleges are canceling football season
***COLLEGE FINANCE
***HIGHER ED
International students may need to leave US if their universities transition to online-only learning
College Leaders Have the Wrong Incentives
3 Colleges to Acquire U of Bridgeport
University of Maryland, College Park No Longer Under Warning for Lack of Transparency
***HIGHER ED & HACKERS
Ransomware is now your biggest online security nightmare. And it's about to get worse
How hackers extorted $1.14m from University of California, San Francisco
***HIGHER ED IN COURT
CUNY faculty union sues system, saying adjunct cuts violate CARES Act
Steps Colleges and Universities Should Take to Avoid Future Litigation Over Tuition and Fees
***TEACHING
Seven Things That Worked in My Online Class
Are History Textbooks Worth Using Anymore? Maybe Not, Some Teachers Say - EdSurge News
Cornell researchers: in-person semester safer than online one
'We shouldn't go back to lectures': why future students will learn online
***ACADEMIC LIFE: GEORGIA TECH
Georgia Tech Professors Revolt Over Reopening, Say Current Plan Threatens Lives Of Students, Staff
'A Nightmare': Georgia Tech Faculty Push Back Against In-Person Reopening Plans
Georgia Tech won't require students to wear masks on campus. Faculty aren't happy.
***ACADEMIC LIFE
UVA professor, supporters question role of race in decision to deny tenure
Faculty from at least 15 colleges and universities in Virginia sign petition surrounding reopening
Mounting Faculty Concerns About the Fall Semester
A Problem for College in the Fall: Reluctant Professors ($)
***CHRISTIAN SCHOOLS
Baylor acknowledges historic ties to slavery
Cedarville University Trustees Resign as Board Reinstates President after Investigation
Wheaton College Chaplain Fired For Inappropriate Comments
***RESEARCH
Rush to publication – What do we have to lose?
Publishing Journal Articles: Tips for Early-Career Scholars
Why someone wrote a paper called "Dear Reviewer 2: Go F’ Yourself"
The Lancet Editor’s Wild Ride Through the Coronavirus Pandemic
Science needs to look inward to move forward
***RESEARCH & RACE
Racial Inequality in Psychological Research
***STUDENT LIFE
ICE says international students must take in-person classes to remain in the US
Racist Social Media Posts From Students Are Forcing Colleges to Respond
Colleges Rescinding Admissions Offers as Racist Social Media Posts Emerge ($)
Medics who changed history wouldn't get into modern medical schools
College students are preparing to return to campus in the fall. Is it worth it?
***SEXUAL HARASSMENT & ASSAULT
“Finding yourself” is not really how it works. You aren’t a ten dollar bill in last year’s winter’s coat pocket. You are also not lost. Your true self is right there, buried under cultural conditioning, other people’s opinions, and inaccurate conclusions you drew as a kid that became your beliefs about who you are. “Finding yourself” is actually returning to yourself. An unlearning, an excavation, a remembering who you were before the world got its hands on you.
Emily McDowell
***THE VIRUS
Treating COVID-19: What We Know Now
How California Went From Coronavirus Success to Hotspot
What autopsies reveal about coronavirus ($)
***THE VIRUS & WEARING MASKS
Does wearing a mask pose any health risks?
Coronavirus question: Is a mask effective when you wear it just below your nose?
Can face masks lower oxygen levels or weaken the immune system? Here's what health experts say
The Science of Mask-Wearing Hasn’t Changed. So Why Have Our Expectations?
***WRITING & READING
U.S. Copyright Office Creates New Registration Process for Online Authors
Confederate monument enthusiasts targeted my store—and it comically backfired
‘Irregardless’ is too a word; you just don’t understand dictionaries
Are the police trying to stop you from taking that cell phone video?
***JOURNALISM & RACE
AP changes writing style to capitalize ‘b’ in Black when referring to race
Black Journalists Weigh In On A Newsroom Reckoning
Black, Hispanic, white Americans feel misunderstood by media for different reasons
***JOURNALISM
Science by press release: When the story gets ahead of the science
BuzzFeed News Fires Senior Reporter for Plagiarism
US Judge Slaps Virginia Clerks With $2 Million Fee Award in First Amendment Case
Journalists believe news and opinion are separate, but readers can't tell the difference
One America News Has Support of Trump, But Not Cable Companies
Las Vegas police plan $280 an hour fee for body cam footage. Critics say that violates law
***THE BUSINESS OF JOURNALISM
IRE Executive Committee resigns, paving way for new election of board officers
Bowing to pressure, Google says it will pay publishers for news
Warner Media to Sell Atlanta’s CNN Center, Sidesteps Threat of Impending Layoffs
A quarter of all U.S. newspapers have died in 15 years, a new UNC news deserts study found
***FAKES & FRAUDS
How conspiracy theories emerge – and how their storylines fall apart
‘Covid Parties’ Are Not a Thing
‘PizzaGate’ Conspiracy Theory Thrives Anew in the TikTok Era
Bringing fact check information to Google Images
Man Says He Was Falsely Arrested After Facial Recognition Mistake
***THE Q-Anon CONSPIRACIES
Down the rabbit hole: how QAnon conspiracies thrive on Facebook
***SOCIAL MEDIA
'Facebook Groups Are Destroying America': Researcher On Misinformation Spread Online
The rise of social media (Video)
Facebook improperly gave users' data to third-party developers, again
TikTok and Other Apps Are Secretly Reading Your Clipboard
***LANGUAGE
The world’s weirdest languages
The Most Mispronounced Word in the World
***LITERATURE
Lose yourself in the places that inspired J.R.R. Tolkien
Men who stole rare books from Carnegie Library sentenced to home confinement
***PRIVACY & SECURITY
How to make sure Google automatically deletes your data on a regular basis
Apple Is Outing Apps That Snoop on Your Personal Information
***PRODUCING MEDIA
Adobe wants users to uninstall Flash Player by the end of the year
Here are the tools and technology journalists are using to tell the coronavirus story
NYU’s First Amendment Watch Releases “A Citizen’s Guide to Recording Police”
#GOODNEWS
“Just talking with them a little bit about history … it inspired me, especially hearing them say, ‘You should be my teacher.'”
The best index to a person's character is (a) how he treats people who can't do him any good, and (b) how he treats people who can't fight back. –Abigail Van Buren (born July 4, 1918)
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