The Residue of the Relationship

When individual members leave a family, whether through death, marriage, relocation, or a cutoff, the system will generally be quick to replace the person who is lost. Whoever the replacement is, new child or new spouse, new in-law or new boarder, clergyman or clergy woman, in the same generation or the next, he or she will replace in all the family triangles the person who has left. They will have grafted onto them all the expectations associated with the predecessor, and the un-worked-out problems that may have contributed to the predecessor’s leaving (or becoming symptomatic) are likely to resurface in the new relationships. Replacement is a function of grief, and grief is always proportional to the un-worked-out residue of the relationship that was lost.

Edwin Friedman, Generation to Generation

What to let go of

What it is time to let go of is not so much the relationship or the job itself, but rather the hopes, fears, dreams, and beliefs that we have attached to them. If you let go only of the job or the relationship, you’ll just find another one and attach the same hopes, fears, dreams and beliefs to it. A loss is best seen as the cue that it is time to let go of the inner thing.

William Bridges, The Way of Transition

Where AI Might Take Journalism

Imagine having a written news story converted into a video by AI. The AI would not be taking away from the journalism but providing more options to access the information. Perhaps the story can be adjusted based on preferences. For instance, perhaps the reader doesn’t know much about economics and wants the material delivered in simple economic terms. Or the reader might want more detail in a story related to their field. AI would be used to adjust the complexity of the delivery. This may be the kind of journalism we are headed toward.

21 Freelancing Articles & 30 Freelancing Sites

Freelancing Articles

18 newsletters every freelance journalist needs to subscribe to  Muckrack

4 strategies for getting paid what you deserve as a freelance writer - Insider

6 Must-Have Tools for Freelance Copywriters - Make Use Of

6 Freelance Writing Tips to Try in 2022 - Motley Fool

Are You Ready to Go Freelance? - Harvard Business Review

Chelsea’s Guide To Freelancing - Chelsea Cirruzzo, a reporter with U.S. News & World Report

Finding Freelance writing on LinkedIn - Twitter

Here's what a bunch of publications pay freelancers - Freelancing with Tim

How to ask for more money — and actually get it - Freelancing with Tim

How to get on an editor's 'regulars' roster - Freelancing with Tim

How to successfully pitch - Harvard’s Nieman Lab

A Journalist’s guide to freelancing - Julie Patel blog

Journalists are switching to freelance. 7 things they wish they knew first – Poynter

A Quick guide to finding your freelance niche - Freelancers Union

SEO Freelancing: 10 Things You Need To Know To Be Successful - Search Engine Journal

Successful Pitches shows freelancers the way - CJR

Ten Tips for Freelance Writing - StoryBench

What do freelance writers make? - Story Bench

What Freelancers Need to Know About Income, Deductions, and Taxes - Bloomberg

What J-Schools should teach about freelancing - International Center for Journalists

Where to pitch, based on data from the website, Who Pays Writers? - Columbia Journalism Review

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4 Steps for Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior

The DESC technique was developed by Sharon Anthony Bower, author of Asserting Yourself as a method for solving interpersonal conflict. Here’s how it works:

Describe

          Do:

  1. Describe the other person's behavior objectively

  2. Use concrete terms

  3. Describe a specific time, place, action

  4. Describe the behavior not the “motive”

          Don't

  1. Let your emotional reaction drive the conversation

  2. Use abstract, vague terms

  3. Generalize for all time

  4. Guess motives or goals

Express

          Do:

  1. Express your feelings

  2. Expressed them calmly

  3. State feelings in a positive manner as relating to a goal to be achieved

  4. Direct yourself to the specific offending behavior, not to the whole person

          Don’t:

  1. Deny your feelings

  2. Unleash emotional outbursts

  3. State feelings negatively, making them put-down our attack

  4. Attack the entire character the person

Specify

          Do:

  1. Ask explicitly for change in your downer’s behavior

  2. Request a small change

  3. Request only one or two changes at one time

  4. Specify the concrete actions you want to see stopped, and those you want to see performed

  5. Take account of whether your downer can meet your request without suffering large losses

          Specify:

             (if appropriate--what behavior you are willing to change to make the agreement)

          Don’t:

  1. Merely imply that you’d like a change

  2. Ask for two large a change

  3. Ask for too many changes

  4. Ask for changes in nebulous traits or qualities

  5. Ignore your downers needs or ask only for your satisfaction

  6. Consider that only your downer has to change

Consequences

          Do:

  1. Make the consequences explicit

  2. Give a positive reward for change in the desired direction

  3. Select something that is desirable and reinforcing to your downer

  4. Select a reward that is big enough to maintain the behavior change

  5. Select a punishment of a magnitude that “fits the crime” of refusing to change behavior

  6. Select punishment that you are actually willing to carry out

          Don’t:

  1. Be ashamed to talk about rewards and penalties

  2. Give only punishments for lack of change

  3. Select something that only you might find rewarding

  4. Offer a reward you can't or won't deliver

  5. Make exaggerated threats

  6. Use unrealistic threats or self-defeating punishment

19 Articles about AI & Data Privacy

What the Arrival of A.I. Phones and Computers Means for Our Data – New York Times

AI and Privacy Issues: Challenges, Solutions, and Best Practices – eWeek

How to opt out of having your data ‘train’ ChatGPT and other AI chatbots – Washington Post

Doctors are using AI to talk to patients and record appointments. Don’t worry, your data is allegedly safe – Fast Company

Is It Safe to Share Personal Information With a Chatbot? – Wall Street Journal  

As threats of AI loom, parents can take steps to remove online photos of kids – Washington Post  

How Strangers Got My Email Address From ChatGPT’s Model – New York Times

Artificial intelligence can find your location in photos, worrying privacy experts – NPR 

Ahead of the Olympics, France embraces AI video surveillance - The Washington Post

Researchers used ChatGPT to extract people’s contact information, showing that the chatbot’s privacy restrictions can be bypassed. – New York Times 

Why generative AI is a double-edged sword for the cybersecurity sector – VentureBeat

Cybersecurity faces a challenge from artificial intelligence’s rise – Washington Post

Gen AI fueled 2023 cyberattacks – CSO Online

Reconciling privacy and accuracy in AI for medical imaging – Nature

Apple Faces a Tough Task in Keeping AI Data Secure and Private – Cnet

Newly passed Colorado AI Act will impose obligations on developers and deployers of high-risk AI systems – White & Case

Apple’s New AI Security Move Explained – Forbes  

Facial recognition startup Clearview AI settles privacy suit – Boston Herald

Resisting change

We resist transition not because we can't accept the change, but because we can’t accept letting go of that piece of ourselves that we have to give up when and because the situation has changed. We also resist transition because it takes longer (often much longer) than change, and so it leaves us in limbo—or in the neutral zone, as I prefer to call it—while a replacement reality and a new self is gradually being formed.

William Bridges, The Way of Transition

Living in the Past

Every day I am discovering that people are depressed and defeated because of their past failures and mistakes. They allow their past failures to dominate their present thinking. Because of some past failure, they have convinced themselves that they are no good and they are incapable of doing anything worthwhile. Not only do they doubt their abilities to accomplish anything, but they also down their worth as human beings. Anyone who lives in the past, brooding over past mistakes, will have a difficult time living in the present. If you want to be unhappy, then constantly rethink your past failures. If you want to live victoriously, leave your past failures and disappointments in the past where they belong.

Larry Kennedy, Down with Anxiety!

21 Recent Articles about Journalism & AI: Uses, Ethics, & Dangers

Yahoo News debuted a fresh A.I.-powered news app – Wired

Ten big questions on AI and the news – Columbia Journalism Review  

It Looked Like a Reliable News Site. It Was an A.I. Chop Shop. – New York Times

NYT issues guidance on its A.I. principles – InPublishing

AI companies freeze out partisan media – Semafor

AI newsroom guidelines look very similar, says a researcher who studied them. He thinks this is bad news - Reuters Institute  

WSJ editor Emma Tucker on how publishers can protect themselves from AI challenge – Press Gazettte

For the first time, two Pulitzer winners disclosed using AI in their reporting – Harvard’s Nieman Lab

AI for Data Journalism: demonstrating what we can do with this stuff right now – Simon Willison

The media bosses fighting back against AI — and the ones cutting deals – Washington Post

A national network of local news sites is publishing AI-written articles under fake bylines. Experts are raising alarm - CNN

What does the public in six countries think of generative AI in news? | Reuters Institute for the Study of Journalism - Reuters Institute  

USA Today is adding AI-generated summaries to the top of its articles - The Verge  

Google’s and Microsoft’s AI Chatbots Refuse to Say Who Won the 2020 US Election – Wired

Julia Angwin on trust in journalism and the future of AI and the news – Journalist’s Resources

AI’s coming inverted pyramid moment for journalism – Poynter

Does AI Have a Place in Journalism? 6 Ways It Helps Us Craft Our Original Work – PC Magazine

Why TikTok star Sophia Smith Galer created an AI tool to help journalists make viral videos – Journalism.co  

Newsrooms are experimenting with generative AI, warts and all – The Conversation

Media Companies Are Making a Huge Mistake With AI – The Atlantic

‘Devastating’ potential impact of Google AI Overviews on publisher visibility revealed - Press Gazette

The Secret Power

You may think that your rehearsal of a job interview was flawless, but your opinion isn't what counts. Or you may believe you played that bar of the Brahms violin concerto perfectly, but can you really trust your own judgment? In many important situations, a teacher, coach, or mentor is vital for providing crucial feedback.

Deliberate practice is above all an effort of focus and concentration. That is what makes it "deliberate," as distinct from the mindless playing of scales or hitting of tennis balls that most people engage in. Continually seeking exactly those elements of performance that are unsatisfactory and then trying one's hardest to make them better places enormous strains on anyone's mental abilities.

The work is so great that it seems no one can sustain it for very long.

Doing things we know how to do well is enjoyable, and that's exactly the opposite of what deliberate practice demands. Instead of doing what we're good at, we insistently seek out what we're not good at.

Then we identify the painful, difficult activities that will make us better and do those things over and over. After each repetition, we force ourselves to see - or get others to tell us - exactly what still isn't right so we can repeat the most painful and difficult parts of what we've just done. We continue that process until we're mentally exhausted.

If it seems a bit depressing that the most important thing you can do to improve performance is no fun, take consolation in this fact: It must be so. If the activities that lead to greatness were easy and fun, then everyone would do them and no one could distinguish the best from the rest.

The reality that deliberate practice is hard can even be seen as good news. It means that most people won't do it. So your willingness to do it will distinguish you all the more.

Geoff Colvin, Why Talent is Overrated